How To Help An Alcoholic Family Member

Watching a loved one struggle with alcoholism can leave you feeling overwhelmed, frustrated, and unsure of how to help. You may ask yourself: “Am I doing enough?” or “What if I make things worse?”

At Tulip Hill Recovery in Murfreesboro, TN, we know how challenging it is to support someone with alcohol addiction. This guide will walk you through practical steps, warning signs, and resources to help your loved one—while also caring for yourself.

What Is Alcohol Use Disorder (AUD)?

Alcohol Use Disorder (AUD) is a chronic brain disease marked by compulsive drinking, loss of control over alcohol use, and negative emotional states when not drinking.

In 2025, approximately 30 million Americans struggle with AUD, according to updated CDC data. Recognizing alcoholism as a disease—not a choice—can help you approach your loved one with empathy.

Signs Your Family Member May Be Struggling

You might suspect your loved one is battling alcohol addiction, but how can you be sure? Common red flags include:

Drinking alone or in secret
Denying or lying about drinking habits
Neglecting responsibilities at work, school, or home
Experiencing legal or financial issues due to drinking
Withdrawal symptoms like sweating, shaking, or irritability
Increased tolerance—needing more alcohol to feel the same effects

If you notice these patterns, it’s time to act.

5 Steps to Help an Alcoholic Family Member

1️⃣ Educate Yourself About Alcoholism

Knowledge is power. Learn about:

How alcohol changes the brain’s chemistry
The risks of withdrawal without medical supervision
Treatment options available in 2025

Understanding the science of addiction can reduce anger or frustration and help you offer compassionate support.

2️⃣ Communicate Without Judgment

Choose a calm, private time to express your concerns. Use “I” statements to avoid sounding accusatory:

“I’ve noticed you’ve been drinking more lately, and I’m worried about your health.”

Avoid shaming or blaming language. Keep the conversation supportive and open-ended.

3️⃣ Set Healthy Boundaries

Boundaries protect both you and your loved one. Examples include:
✅ Refusing to provide money or shelter if it enables drinking
✅ Declining to cover up for missed work or legal problems
✅ Prioritizing your own mental health by saying no when needed

Remember: setting boundaries isn’t punishment—it’s an act of love.

4️⃣ Encourage Professional Help

Alcohol withdrawal can be life-threatening. A medical detox program like the one at Tulip Hill Recovery ensures a safe, supervised environment for your loved one to begin healing.

Tulip Hill offers:

24/7 medical care during detox
Residential treatment for ongoing support
Family programs to heal relationships and build healthier dynamics

5️⃣ Take Care of Yourself

Supporting an alcoholic loved one is emotionally taxing. Protect your own well-being by:
? Joining family support groups (like Al-Anon)
? Seeing a therapist to process your feelings
? Practicing self-care through exercise, hobbies, and rest

You cannot pour from an empty cup.

What If They Refuse Help?

It’s heartbreaking when a loved one denies they need treatment. In some cases, a professional intervention may be necessary. Tulip Hill Recovery can help connect you with experienced interventionists who know how to approach these delicate situations.